Taylor Gang

'You hit me, we hit you'.

It is the tagline for one of my socializing group years ago. I was influenced by this group for years. I also managed to sit on 1 of it's main chairs. I used to feel that they are a part of my life. Without thinking about the consequences, me and my boys were willingly gives our full-commitment in sacrificing our time, money and energy (maybe sometimes our own life too lol) for them. We feel a spirit that we don't see it in school or anywhere else. We called it 'brotherhood'. At that time I believe that the brotherhood of mine is my life and I always believed that they always got my back. However, after about 7 years on that group, I just realized that me and my friends just being used by them to gain a great name in that particular field (it reminds me about the hooligans in UK long ago but actually they want to be like the bunch of people in Causeway Bay, HK). But I don't hold any grudge towards them. Eventually then I started to distance myself from them. However, I still maintain a good relationship with a few friends from the group since we have been together for years. Even though I has made my decision, but it is undeniable that I've gain so much wonderful experiences during our time together. I still smile whenever I reminisce about this memories.

From that part of experience in my life, I discovered what is the 'brotherhood' true meaning. Brotherhood means that a friend who is willing to be there for his friends who is in need. There are so many people that claimed us as their brotherhood. This kind of people live in a dreamworld with a fake life motto or maybe they doesn't know how cruel this world can be. This is because they does not know what the meaning of the word. I used to live in that dreamworld. I used to believe that every people who said there are going to be with me through hard and easy times, will be with me. They said this during happy time, giving so many promises and laughed together, however there are disappeared during my hard time. At first, I believe that this 'friend' was busy doing something or whatever, but then I realized that people actually can be there if they intend to. If they really have an intention to help their friends, the action should has been taken. They always said bloodbrother here, brotherhood there, but then they are gone MIA whenever we need them. Right now i really appreciate every single person who used to help me during my worst situations. For me, the most valuable friend is the one who no need to ask whether we are okay or not, he just know that by himself. Never rat on your friend because the karma will hit you back. Do not talk bad about your friend because the chain will never end. If you talk bad about others, other people will talk bad about you as well. Always remember that what you give you will get back. Do not trust people easily and do not put high expectations towards your friends because people is different with each other. Not all people can do same like what you had sacrifice for then.

If you have encounter a problem with your friend, the best way to settle it is by having communication. Without a clear communication, we cannot understand about our friend's true feeling. We must know what actually he felt about matters since we are not afford to lose them. From my experience, some of my friends is lack of communication skills. I have told them so many time, if they feel bad about me, just tell me so that I can improve myself. But they keep their mouth shut. At the end of the day, they left and I only have few close friends who are willing to remind me whenever i have done any wrongdoings. I really appreciate those who stick by my side and remain loyal with me even though I am not a good friend. Thank you brothers. And for those who leave me, I will pray the best for your future. :)